Men’s staff RetReat
Stronger
Relationships
Welcome
Exercise 1: Retreat Check In
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1. Greatest personal accomplishment this past year?
2. One thing you’d like to learn in this session on
strengthening relationships.
Background and
Research
POSITIVE ATTITUDE
Your Attitude is more
important than your aptitude.
(“Hired and fired…”)
at·ti·tude
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ˈatiˌt(y)ood/
noun
1. a settled way of thinking or feeling about
someone or something, typically one that is
reflected in a person's behavior.
“But be doers of the word, and not hearers only…”
- James 1:22
pos·i·tive
ˈpäzətiv/ noun
1. a good, affirmative, or constructive
quality or attribute..
Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble,
whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely,
whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything
praiseworthy—meditate on these things. - Philippians 4:8
What does it look like?
What does it sound like?
1. Nonverbal Communication
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1. Emotional response determined nonverbally:
* Albert Mehrabian Studies:
Nonverbal 93% Vocal - 38%
Face, Gestures, Body – 55%
Verbal
7%
2. Most replication studies vary, but same results:
Nonverbal 60%
Verbal
40%
3. Face, voice, and body positioning most impact
Face (eye contact, smile)
Voice (easy pace, caring)
Body (open, relaxed)
Exercise 2a
Nonverbal Communication
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Pair Up: A & B
How would people know you were a Christian
if you could not speak?
Exercise 2b
Nonverbal Communication
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Pair Up: A & B
Talk back to back
Face to face without talking
Talk face to face without eye contact
Talk face to face with eye contact
Talk without smiling / smiling
Talk standing / sitting
Imitate voice of partner “B”
Meta-Communicate
2. Verbal Communication
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Language of Heaven: “Adds & Multiplies”
Language of Hell:
“Subtracts & Divides”
1. Acknowledge others:
Thank you for…
I appreciate your…
I admire the way you…
I remember the time you…
You’ve changed the way I…
You’re a Godly example of…
Exercise 3:
Appreciating Others
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Group Circle Up
Each person will receive a statement. Select one of the
following for each brother as he prepares to ask:
“May I receive my statement?”
Thank you for…
I appreciate your…
I admire the way you…
I remember the time you…
You’ve changed the way I…
You’re a Godly example of…
2. Don’t say negative things about people/work
Stick up for others during gossip
“That doesn’t sound like the Jason I know…”
“May I quote you as the source?”
“Get thee behind me, Satan.”
3. Reframe negatives: Changing negative
interpretations into positive interpretations:
“Mark, another way of looking at this is…”
4.
Asking for forgiveness: Admit, Apologize, Ask
“I was wrong and I’m sorry. Would you forgive me?”
Exercise 4:
Life Line Support
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Pair Up: A & B
Fill out life line handout.
A shares, B supports / increases
B shares, A supports / increases
Meta-Communicate
Exercise 5: Forgiveness
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Asking for Forgiveness: AAA Technique
Admit
(“I was wrong…”)
Apologize (“I’m sorry…”)
Ask
(“Would you forgive me?”)
Exercise 6: Dream House
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Individual Surprise
Catalyst for Culture
POSITIVE ATTITUDE
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Men’s Staff Retreat
Stronger
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